I’ve heard it’s all arse over tit with girls—euphemistically speaking, unless you get lucky and get a real goer—and they expect you to do the talking first, fucking second. Get the important stuff out of the way first; that’s what I always say.
“I’m waiting for someone special.”
[Felix:] “Like me, you mean?”
“No. Just, for when I fall in love.”
Jamie: Two very different approaches to that pesky, wonderful process of finding that special someone to share your Happy Ever After. But which is better? Which would you like to see your romantic heroes adopt?
Personally, I’m torn. While I quite like the awkwardness and embarrassment my heroes can be made to suffer after becoming intimate with someone they hardly know, I’m also a fan of the big UST build-up, where the boys become ever more desperate to get their hands on each other. (Yes, I’m evil—I like my heroes to suffer!) What do you think, Jo?
Jo: I’ve got to admit, you’re highly unlikely to find me leaving my characters to stew for too long – I tend to agree with your first quote from Chris: get it out of the way. It’s partly because I love writing long, plotty sex scenes, but also because I enjoy the way you can then show a marked change in the level of intimacy between the two (or three!) as the story progresses.
A “casual” sexual encounter between two near strangers can be awkward and embarrassing, I agree, which is always fun to write. However, it can also be hot as hell and allow an otherwise repressed character to let go of a few inhibitions. What does it matter if they confess a secret desire or fetish to someone they don’t really know and they’re not planning to see again? Then I get to be really cruel and make them fall in love with that person!
I think I just enjoy the kind of dynamic between two characters who don’t have a clue what’s going on inside the other’s head, like Dan and Robin when they first get together in Barging In. Those kind of sex scenes are rich with possibility for the writer. Are you honestly telling me, Jamie, that you prefer your characters to have an old-fashioned courtship before they hop into bed?
Jamie: Old-fashioned courtship? No. But extended period of ratcheting up the sexual tension until they’re practically climbing the walls? Definitely! I just love that feeling of Oh-my-God-I-want-him-but-I-can’t-have-hi
And interestingly, your line about enjoying the dynamic between two characters who don’t have a clue what’s going on inside the other’s head applies equally well here. I get what you’re saying about inhibitions flying out of the window with a stranger and then coming back to bite you in the bum—but don’t you think delayed gratification can be all the sweeter? ;)
Jo: (furrowing brow) What’s this delayed gratification you speak of? I’m not familiar with that concept ;P
Actually, I do enjoy creating a bit of UST in the early chapters but I’m just not mean enough to keep it going all the way through a novel. I think it’s a reflection of me starting out writing primarily erotica as I tend to have a surplus of UST pretty early on, rather than letting it build slowly over time. I enjoy it when characters feel lust at first sight, and I can only string that out until about a third of the way through. That was as far as I could manage in Handle with Care (forthcoming release), as by then the boys were clamoring to tear each other’s clothes off and I couldn’t actually stop them—not that I really wanted to!
I’m a little perplexed by the mindset that prefers delayed gratification romance over steamy erotic romance, although I do enjoy reading them occasionally. However, my muse is a bacchanalian bastard and demands I feed him plenty of scorching hot sex on a regular basis. I take it you’ve managed to tame your muse? Or perhaps she was never such a smut-fiend as mine in the first place?
Jamie: LOL! I now have an image of my muse as a strait-laced Victorian spinster! Probably named something like Agatha or Prudence, she spends her days reading improving books and campaigning for temperance!
Actually, my muse enjoys scorching hot sex as much as the next Greek nymphette—but haven’t you ever heard of being cruel to be kind? Trust me, the boys will thank me for it later...much later—they’re a little busy right now! ;D
Jo: See, you’re being cruel to be kind by delaying the gratification, and I’m being kind to be cruel by allowing them to have sex early on, but by making things difficult for them by introducing all sorts of emotions they weren’t expecting and aren’t ready for. I love doing that! And if it means I get to write plenty of sizzling and plotty sex scenes, all the better :)
I wonder what other readers and writers think? Is casual sex early on in a story something you enjoy, or would you rather wait to make it all the sweeter?~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
JL Merrow is that rare beast, an English person who refuses to drink tea. She read natural sciences at Cambridge, where she learned many things, chief amongst which was that she never wanted to see the inside of a lab again. Her one regret is that she never mastered the ability of punting one-handed whilst holding a glass of champagne.
She has had over thirty short stories and novellas published by Dreamspinner Press, Torquere Press, and Samhain Publishing, among others. Camwolf, a paranormal romance, is her first novel, and her second, Wight Mischief, a romantic thriller, was published in November 2011.
Find JL Merrow online at: www.jlmerrow.com.
English through and through, Josephine Myles is addicted to tea and busy cultivating a reputation for eccentricity. She writes gay erotica and romance, but finds the erotica keeps cuddling up to the romance, and the romance keeps corrupting the erotica. Jo blames her rebellious muse but he never listens to her anyway, no matter how much she threatens him with a big stick. She’s beginning to suspect he enjoys it.
Jo once spent two years living on a slowly decaying narrowboat, and was determined that she would one day use the experience as fodder for a novel. It may have taken a few years, but she got there in the end. She usually does. Barging In, her first novel, was released by Samhain Publishing in September 2011.
Find Jo Myles online at josephinemyles.com.
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