January 18th, 2011

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"WHY" M/M? AND WHO NEEDS TO KNOW?

Today's guest is the fabulous and deservedly feted author Jordan Castillo Price. She's considering just WHY we like reading and writing what we do - or whether that should be a topic for discussion at all!



And Jordan's intriguing and delightful Petit Morts series is being featured on the review site Brief Encounters Reviews all this week! Pop on over and say HI.



Bio: Jordan Castillo Price grew up in Western New York, spent her formative drinking years in inner city Chicago, and is now writing paranormal thrillers from her home in small-town rural Wisconsin.

Have questions about writing erotica? Comments about any of her stories? Just want to say hi? Drop her an email at jordan (at) psycop (dot) com.

Jordan is best known as the author of the PsyCop series, an unfolding tale of paranormal mystery and suspense starring Victor Bayne, a gay medium who's plagued by ghostly visitations. Visit JCPbooks.com to glimpse Chicago beyond the veil.


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When man-on-man is like brussels sprouts




One of my non-m/m friends spotted this thread where a guy finds his girlfriend’s stash of yaoi, and he’s so shattered (oh noes!) he must go directly to the interwebs for help!


Is this something I should be concerned about?
What do I do?
Should I confront her?


This idea of confrontation intrigues me, because what on earth would he hope to accomplish by doing so? Humiliate his girlfriend? Force her to confess to these dirty, dirty things she finds titillating? Possibly. But if I give this guy the benefit of the doubt, I suspect what he really wants to know is WHY.

Why read Yaoi, m/m, slash, or any other type of gay material if you’re a woman?

I’m heartened because many of the respondents sense the “why” in his desperate “OMG I just found The Gay” pleas, and they just tell him to get over himself, since plenty of men enjoy lesbian porn and no one bats an eyelash. This is true, and I’m glad most of the comments skew this way. Though they still don’t address the “why.”


I’d like to suggest that maybe the “why” is irrelevant. We like and dislike plenty of things without having to explain our preferences. I could choose an obvious example, like chocolate cake, and say that I like it—and I’d be pretty surprised if anyone wondered why.

And so, to illustrate my point, I’ll just throw it out there instead that I like brussels sprouts.




What’s your reaction?

If you like brussels sprouts, you probably would say, “Yes, I do too. How do you cook yours?” And if you don’t, you’d probably just say, “Ew, yuck,” and leave it at that. I doubt you feel personally insulted, or even threatened, by the idea that I enjoy something that you don’t. Maybe at some point you’ll even tease me about it, and remark that you went to McDonald’s and didn’t notice any brussels sprouts on the menu, and perhaps I should go have a little talk with the manager.

So what’s the difference?

The obvious thing, to me, is that sexuality is so charged (or overcharged) that it’s kind of like childrearing or politics or religion. The stakes are higher, and people identify more of their core selves with it, so when we find our friends differ strongly in their preferences, if we don’t have strong and secure sense of self, it can create a sort of rift.


I also think the “whys” are subtle. I write m/m for a living and I don’t think I could give you a pat answer of why man-on-man appeals to me. I could probably spin an elaborate theory of balancing gender equality in the story, avoiding traditional male/female role expectations, and removing myself entirely from the story so the characters are definitively “not me” (although, in a sense, I suppose they are simultaneously all me since they come from my imagination.)

And yet I wonder if the “why” is ultimately important. What I do know is that I’m profoundly thankful to find other people, worldwide, who share my preferences, and that I live in an era where broader acceptance is becoming possible, and the technology exists to connect.

Also let it be known that I make a really mean brussels sprout with browned butter and orange zest.


Jordan Castillo Price is the author of the PsyCop and Channeling Morpheus series. She began her own publishing company, JCP Books LLC, in 2008. Find out more at http://jordancastilloprice.com or sign up for her newsletter at http://psycop.com/newsletter.html



(Clare sez: I'm adding this banner because the Channeling Morpheus series introduced me to Jordan's work, and will ever have a fond place in my heart LOL).


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AND JUST FOR FUN, A FICTION PROMPT CALL...!!

Like to stretch your writing fingers after Christmas' excesses? Take the prompt "A NEW RESOLUTION" and write something for the visitors this month. It can be anything from a flashfic 3 sentences to a drabble of 100 or so, or even more. Any genre, any theme, any rating, any character(s). Maybe ones you already love, maybe the chance to try on a new character for size.

I'm holding a FREE FICTION DAY on the 28th, so send me new fiction - links to your existing work also welcome! - to clarelondon11 AT yahoo.co.uk and I'll post it all then :).




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Follow this month with Clare - and the goodies so far:

JAN 15: Favourite worldwide travel with cdn_tam.
JAN 16: 10 cautionary tales from ZA Maxfield! zamaxfield.
JAN 17: The business/pleasure balance of writing from libby_drew.


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Check up on the original post and the Guest Schedule for January HERE.

Want to join in but missed the original call? Email me at clarelondon11 AT yahoo.co.uk and I'll happily find you a space ♥

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