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EXAMINING MY ASSUMPTIONS

Today's guest is the author Chrissy Munder, who's blogging for her second - and properly scheduled! - visit. I'm a huge FAN of her writing, and her generous friendship, too. She's like family to me - the *nicer* ones, that is LOL - and is always willing to provide support and encouragement, not just to me - keeping me this side of sane many a time - but to other friends and aspiring authors :).

She's a very talented writer with a particular mastery of thoughtful, witty, loving - and often very sexy! - short stories. Last year, as well as many of these, she published her first novel Drive Me Home with a collection of her trademark vivid characters and a hero, Eric, who shares his emotional trials and his romantic triumphs with the reader, making for a very rewarding read.
She also published a striking, evocative novella set in the world of competitive sailing, Fair Winds.
Find all her published work at Dreamspinner Press.



Her blurb: I usually try to let my writing speak for itself but I've been told that a bit of info about me might be amusing to some readers. Never let it be said I stood in the way of anyone's amusement! So, for the curious, here's a little background on your's truly.

The joke when I was growing up was that no one could remember a time when I wasn't reading. I was born with a book in my hand (ouch, sorry about that, Mom!) and haven't put it down since. At the age of seven I commandeered an old desk in the basement, set out some pencils and paper and grandly announced the "writer was at work".
Well, the more practical aspects of life interrupted those plans and I was forced to become a practicing realist in an effort to combat my tendency to dream but here I am once again, happy to share with you my love of romance and fiction.
Even though I've lived in more states than I have fingers to count I tend to set a fair portion of my fiction along the Western Coast of Michigan and I always try to highlight a few interesting aspects of the coast in my stories.
I feel there isn’t a more romantic or interesting location around and I am a firm believer in the transforming magic of romance in all its many guises whether it be het, m/m or f/f.
Please, come with me and share the magic.





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Examining my assumptions.

pic from istockphoto

Most of us have sat in a classroom or workplace and watched while some insufferably smug person dissected the word assume into multiple parts. This is usually after an assignment has managed to get horribly bungled, and it’s an annoyingly effective exercise that we don’t soon forget.

But I’m a product of my love of bad, pseudo martial arts/action movies. Not this modern wire work stuff mind you, but the older, more physical movies that don’t receive much acclaim – critical or otherwise.

I clearly remember sitting in the dark, my feet stuck to the tacky coating created by years of spilled soda and crushed popcorn. My butt perched on the edge of the aisle seat (you know, the one with the busted back spring) and hearing the following snarled through the pre-Dolby speakers at the $1 movie down the street from my house.

“Assumption is the mother of all fuckups.” Under Siege 2: Dark Territory, 1995

That moment almost beat out seeing Miss October pop out of the cake (a seminal moment in my life) and Gary Busey’s psychotic turn in a skirt for the first Under Siege movie.



Birthdays, New Years, New Months, New Moons, and Mondays all have something in common. They all represent an opportunity for a fresh start and fresh resolve. A chance to examine assumptions that perhaps aren’t in our best interests.

We all have beliefs about our abilities and ourselves we hold close and dear. Maybe we are unaware of them. Maybe we don’t realize the impact they have on our day to day existence. But if we stop and examine them these could be the very same things holding us back in both life and writing.

There are many definitions of the word assumption, for the purpose of my thoughts today I’m using this one from Merriam Webster online :
5 b : a fact or statement (as a proposition, axiom, postulate, or notion) taken for granted.

I’ve heard the following from both my friends and myself over the last few weeks:

I can’t lose weight because…
I can’t go back to school and finish that degree because…
I can’t quit this job because…
I can’t finish this story because…
I can’t keep the house clean because…
I can’t start this improvement program because…
I can’t write a synopsis because…
I can’t stand that guy because…
There’s no sense even trying because…



It’s too easy in today’s world, surrounded by constant negatives and stories of pain and loss to let our assumptions overwhelm us and stifle our personal and professional growth.

What would happen if we would take just one of our assumptions, removed the “I can’t” and replaced it with an “I can”?



What would happen if we searched out and read a daily story of human inspiration? Picked up a biography of someone who achieved something amazing instead of a blog and newspaper article full of the worst we can offer, or the downward spiral of life as we know it? I’m not a Pollyanna by nature, far from it. But I’m tired of some of the assumptions I allow power in my life.

There’s a Monday coming up, and then another one seven days after that. What are some assumptions in your own life that could bear to be examined? What can’t could you replace with a can? Or heck, what’s your favorite biography or link that leaves you feeling uplifted and able?

~~Chrissy~~

Chrissy's Website.
Chrissy's Blog.


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AND JUST FOR FUN...!!

Today's Quote:
"I do think New Year's resolutions can't technically be expected to begin on New Year's Day, don't you? Since, because it's an extension of New Year's Eve, smokers are already on a smoking roll and cannot be expected to stop abruptly on the stroke of midnight with so much nicotine in the system. Also dieting on New Year's Day isn't a good idea as you can't eat rationally but really need to be free to consume whatever is necessary, moment by moment, in order to ease your hangover. I think it would be much more sensible if resolutions began generally on January the second." Helen Fielding

Today's Daft Google Searches for 'Clare London':
"Kathmandu to Lukla (2800m) to Phakding (2700m)" Holiday plans already...? :)



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Follow this month with Clare (look at the goodies so far...):

Jan 22 : Author Jordan Castillo Price wonders "what if" she hadn't been a writer?
Jan 23 : Author Syd McGinley asks Is Dr. Fell a Gary Sue?‏
Jan 24 : Author Angela S. Stone tells us about her 'Bunnies' and offers Free Fiction.‏
Jan 24 : Author Lori Toland tells us about the rock 'n' roll of her new release.‏
Jan 25 : Author Rowena Sudbury talks about inspiration and its spark in her fiction.‏
Jan 26 : Author Anne Brooke shares her new release "A Stranger's Touch".‏



Jan 15 : Jen of Well Read savours the memory of food, and seeks it in her fiction!
Jan 16 : Author Mel Keegan tells us why we should all be visiting the GLBT Bookshelf.
Jan 17 : Author Cassandra Gold discusses the wonderful world of the romance sub-genre.
Jan 18 : Author Wren Boudreau asks "Who am I...and am I okay with it?"
Jan 19 : Author Jenna Hilary Sinclair confesses her addiction...to writing!
Jan 20 : Author Dakota Flint discusses the fascination of the Epilogue.
Jan 21 : Author Janey Chapel treats us to pictures of her favourite kink!




Jan 08 : Jessewave wonders - tongue in cheek - where the less shiny guys are!
Jan 09 : Anne Cain shares her art and encourages a show and tell!
Jan 10 : My latest release Upwardly Mobile is out at Amber Quill today.
Jan 11 : Author Lee Rowan discusses why love should not be a garotte.
Jan 12 : Author Jaime Samms asks if readers prefer short or long stories.
Jan 13 : Author Erastes explains why her submissions keep aiming for the stars!
Jan 14 : Author Daimeryan Rei describes the rewards of writing both fan and original fiction.




Jan 01 : The New Year brings the release of the Immortal Fire anthology IN PRINT.
Jan 02 : author Chrissy Munder asks if current affairs in fiction is delightful or just dates us.
Jan 03 : author Madeleine Urban describes how her characters hijacked her brain.
Jan 04 : author Theda Black's inspiration reaches from a bionic penis to the power of Pan.
Jan 05 : author Josh Lanyon shares some exceedingly good books with us.
Jan 06 : author K. Z. Snow questions what all the fuss is about authors 'making shit up'.
Jan 07 : Josie aka 1more_sickpuppy compares her life and friends online and off.


Want to grab a day to pimp, pose or pontificate? Email me at clarelondon11 @ hotmail.com and I'll happily find you a space ♥

NOTE: most pictures chosen by me and credited where known, others may be used without direct permission, please contact me with any queries/concerns.

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angelasstone
Jan. 27th, 2010 10:53 am (UTC)
*nod*!

I agree I personaly philoosphy (if I could spell the word...) is "Can't mean Won't"

XD!
chrissymunder
Jan. 27th, 2010 05:40 pm (UTC)
*nods back* and my next favorite - "different isn't wrong". LOL.
angelasstone
Jan. 27th, 2010 09:37 pm (UTC)
LOL!!

Agreed!! I usually say "Different is so much better"

*giggles*
kz_snow
Jan. 27th, 2010 04:47 pm (UTC)
Chrissy, you've missed your (second) calling. You should become a motivational speaker! :-)

Nice, uplifting post.
chrissymunder
Jan. 27th, 2010 05:46 pm (UTC)
*cackle* Well, you know, Clare has her singing career (look out Susan Boyle)and I'm just living in a van, down by the river...




rip Chris Farley

edited: Better quality clip here

Edited at 2010-01-27 05:56 pm (UTC)
chrissymunder
Jan. 27th, 2010 06:13 pm (UTC)
I had posted another clip here - one of Chris Farley doing the Chippendales audition and then I really watched it past the dance scene. Am I older? Wiser? More aware? I could watch Chris Farley all day, but listening to the comments at the end of that skit - that wasn't very funny at all. So I deleted it. And now I'm off to examine my assumption over that.
kz_snow
Jan. 27th, 2010 07:20 pm (UTC)
I LOVE that skit! Matt Foley is my favorite Chris Farley character. Thanks, Chrissy!
jenna_hilary
Jan. 27th, 2010 09:42 pm (UTC)
I love your post! The world needs more positive people, and we can all benefit from "yes I can" thinking. So long as it doesn't become completely delusional.... I'm a rather optimistic person who battles cynicism, which is hard to do as I get older.

As to what leaves me uplifted, the first thing that came into my head is a book. It's called The Curse of Chalion by Lois McMaster Bujold. Science Fantasy. It's about an extraordinary man who thinks of himself as completely ordinary, who has taken many of life's hard knocks, who has failed at plenty, but who has a deep sense of integrity and honor. I love everything about the way this book makes me feel.

And on a totally different subject, I cannot believe I've run across another Under Seige fan. I haven't even seen #2, but one of my most guilty pleasures is the original movie.
clarelondon
Jan. 27th, 2010 10:49 pm (UTC)
Here's another fan LOL. I've never much followed his other movies, but I think that was brilliant fun!
chrissymunder
Jan. 28th, 2010 01:13 pm (UTC)
Oh I don't know, there are days I'm all for the delusional. :). You really must rent US:2. It also has Everett McGill of Twin Peaks/Dune fame as well as the requisite scene of all the guys in the Pentagon muttering about the crisis and then the General saying "Ryback? Casey Ryback's on that train?" Heh.
jenna_hilary
Jan. 28th, 2010 01:57 pm (UTC)
Oh, behold me literally laughing out loud. You've sold me. If I can get that line -- "Casey's on the train!" -- then I must see that movie. My husband will undoubtedly think I've lost my mind. I like the Die Hard series as well, and he can't reconcile my decidedly pacifistic point of view with my enjoyment of cheesily violent movies.
Yours,
Jenna
jenre
Jan. 27th, 2010 10:14 pm (UTC)
Great post Chrissy
You are right, we should be more positive in life and more proactive about making our lives happy.

I haven't got a biography to recommend I'm afraid, because I don't find inspiring stories particularly inspiring. I just think, well good for them, but I'm not like that and nor do I want to be!
chrissymunder
Jan. 28th, 2010 01:15 pm (UTC)
LOL. *Chrissy hugs Jenre and contemplates the deeper meaning behind the Dino icon*
clarelondon
Jan. 27th, 2010 10:47 pm (UTC)
Ah, but I have the perfect blog to offer up for this post! I was hoping to bring it to the party if one of my days had been vacant... :) (no, I'm not complaining!)

It's Christine Kane's blog:
http://christinekane.com/blog/

I started following last New Year when she featured guests' special 'word' that represented for them the hopes and ambitions for the year ahead. I've enjoyed plenty of posts there since. I can't say I'm tempted by the CD of songs or the books or the tour - but some of the posts, however 'duh' I may feel when I realise I've thought the same myself, just help me concentrate quickly on some sense that may have got buried under all my other crap :).
chrissymunder
Jan. 28th, 2010 01:19 pm (UTC)
I've been following as well. It's just nice to have something *more* to think about on the silly days.
jordan_c_price
Jan. 27th, 2010 11:17 pm (UTC)
Yay, I love this post, Chrissy! And I didn't know you were a fellow Midwesterner. Surprise :D

I don't have a specific link...oh heck, maybe I do (and please pardon me for tooting my own horn!) I like to think that on http://packingheat.net I get across the message "Yes, you CAN write, now go sneak some word count in."

I dig the idea of saying, "I need to learn how to..." instead of, "I can't."
chrissymunder
Jan. 28th, 2010 01:26 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Jordan. I've gotten around in the US, that's for sure. Toot away. Packing Heat is a great resource that I hope draws a good crowd. There's a lot of bang for a listener's free buck in there.
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